Break Those Bonds

The most insidious part of Homophobia and Hatred?

The hate, disgust, derision, and disrespect that spreads
like a sickness.....is a sickness they have spread to us.

The most important part of Homophobia, Hatred, and Lies?

We are not bound to it any longer...
and never have to be held down again.

We are Free...the moment we choose to stop listening...
and learn to love ourselves, as is.

**********************************************************

Pay It Forward

Remember our history...

remember that we keep nothing without

fighting for it.

Who will you be today?

A pass-over, lay-down, ignore-it-all...

or a Fight-Back, Stand-Up, Speak-Out sort?

The right to live freely is the most fundamental in all

the world, and we cannot believe for one single

moment that we are any less deserving than anyone else

on the planet.

This is our world, our country, our government, too.

We have a right to our lives and freedom.

But always remember that freedom isn't free;

everything carries a price tag.

What is yours?

***

June 28, 1969

The Stonewall Riots

The Day We Chose to Say "No More"

Find out about your history!

***

"Stonewall Uprising" trailer

"Stonewall" the movie (1996)

"Before Stonewall" documentary trailer

"After Stonewall"

****

Out of the Frying Pan....

 

Coming out may end up being the easiest part!

Learning to release from the bonds and demands of a society
that rewards compliance (and assaults individuality or difference
of any sort) takes much courage.

Generally, growing and maturing requires escaping the clutches
of the regimented and puritanical smaller towns (resistant to change
and exploration, filled with overly possessive and controlling families.)

And yet we can find ourselves--those of us escaping repressiveness
and depression and leading into an adult world where we are free
to discover our true selves--becoming heady from our new freedom.
But not all is well in Camelot! 

Is there any difference between one brand of conformity and another?

Finding acceptance and developing an ability to freely and safely
express one's inner self is very exciting, and adding to that experience
of--at long last--a sense of belonging and acceptance, when we add
the thrill of another's touch, a deep and intimate kiss, the release of
years of repressed sexuality...well, we can find ourselves not quite in
possession of our faculties any longer.

We may even be reluctant to admit (defensive, perhaps) that there are
caveats demanding new loyalties and concessions from our new comrades.
Things we miss seeing at first, in our euphoria, or perhaps are willing to
overlook due to our desire to finally be included.

The gay 'subculture' (at least on a social level) has an expected
accommodation of partying excesses, substance abuse, bitchiness,
gossiping, ageism, sexism, body worship and other nihilistic self-defeating
outrageous behaviors, including a disregard for safe-sex practices.

Straights aren't the only ones bullying us;
often we are cruelest to our own.

So enthralled by being a part of something--seeing an aspect of our-
selves reflected back at us, instead of hiding our real self--being free of
condemnation...it's very intoxicating!

We might accommodate this new life by emulating those we have grafted
onto; become a body Nazi, drift into more experimental or aggressive drugs,
and other self-hating activities that pass for gay culture.

Like all oppressed people that find a measure of freedom, gay men 
have a deep need to feel superior once they finally find their voice. And
the best means of feeling 'superior' is to be merciless cutting down others.

Toned bodies and tans aren't the most important
thing about our fellow queers; expand your interests.

Guard yourself carefully. Try to refrain from jumping from one prison
to another. Realize that you can always make a change in your friends
and surroundings. This pressure to assimilate pervades every clique and
subculture; it isn't particular to the gay community. Just because your first
foray doesn't meet your expectations doesn't mean future ones won't.

Being yourself is really the only game in town, no matter who it is that's
expecting you to change to be part of their pack.

******************************************************