The Point of Suffering is to LEARN the Lesson

 

Rampant drug use and

BARE-BACKING--

because nothing says

'progress, self-respect, and

reclaiming one's sexuality'

like remaining a perpetually

self-destructive, disdainful,

objectified, careless, indiscriminate,

hedonistic man-whore.

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(Respect yourself.

Respect your brothers.)

Gay Film: "Beautiful Thing"

Simplicity

You would think that we

could reach a point

in human evolution

(Is that just a myth?)

where this would be

a rather minor

revelation

in the scheme of things.

I don't hold much hope,

but I work for change,

regardless.

***

I'm Just Saying....

So, I am a huge fan of humor in combatting

domestic terrorism; it makes the point yet

doesn't make light of the concern.

I'm also a big fan of provocative actions--

especially hot, steamy, spit-swapping varieties!

But I have to ask-- is all of it really necessary,

given that Chick-FOUL-A's own marketing.....

...sounds completely like an ad campaign for a

lecherous gay bar !?!?!

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Change of Heart

 Overcoming the mountain of self-doubt taught to us
(and constantly-leveled at us in ways subtle and overt)
isn't accomplished by a few carefully-penned anthems
or a few days of righteous indignation on federal steps,
displaying our courage.

Those things are necessary, but overcoming the obstacles
involved in living your life openly is a gargantuan effort
of mobilizing spirit, questioning motives, staying on task,
being a cheerleader for self and your fellows, promoting
your own agenda, and not taking any more shit.

It's done in private, every day, as we prepare for and face
the world at large. We have to be relentless in building
ourselves up, ever in preparation for the forces that wish
to wear us down.


Self-love is the highest form, and the most important,
necessary mission. The only job we have is to learn
to live fully a life of evolving and surviving this hostile
world. (Don't let the veil of 'civilization' fool you!)


This modern, seemingly-sanitized world is more brutal than
the jungle. It's survival of the fittest, and if you aren't as
fit it simply means it's time to toughen up and get ready.


We must always be countering the dark spell of those we
encounter. The antidote? Absolute faith in self. And becoming
desensitized to homophobia on a personal level. (Recognize
that it's a lie, and actively condemn bias and intolerance for
the unacceptable mess it is; you don't have to buy into second
class citizenship any more!)


And its ongoing progression; not a simple decision.
A lifetime of proactive, decisive rededicating.


Open up to a gentle, guiding hand--Not someone who wants
to mash you and grind you into malleable paste. People who
want to crush your soul and spirit and heart and dreams in
order to make themselves feel better are not out for your
best interests. It's time for you to do it for yourself.

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Recommended Reading

Open up whole new worlds with these great books!

1.)  LOVING SOMEONE GAY by Don Clark, PhD

     http://www.donclarkphd.com/loving-someone-gay.html


2.)  THE VELVET RAGE: Overcoming the Pain of Growing up Gay in a Straight Man's World 
      by Alan Downs, PhD

     http://www.alandowns.com/services


3.)  BECOMING A MAN: Half a Life Story by Paul Monette

            http://www.harpercollins.com/author/authorExtra.aspx?isbn13=9780060595647&displayType=readingGuide


4.)  FINDING THE BOYFRIEND WITHIN: A Practical Guide for Tapping Into Your Own
      Source of Love, Happiness, and Respect by Brad Gooch

      http://www.bradgooch.net/finding_the_boyfriend_within_88659.htm


5.)  REFLECTIONS OF A ROCK LOBSTER: A Story About Growing Up Gay
       by Aaron Fricke

      http://redroom.com/member/aaron-fricke/books/reflections-of-a-rock-lobster-a-story-about-growing-up-gay



There are plenty of other excellent books about overcoming the difficulties of growing
up gay (LGBTQ) in this world. Some great resources to help make life more easily
understood and easily weathered. I recommend checking them out.

If you can't afford to purchase, many states will allow you to special order books
from other library branches and have them delivered to yours. Or check out online
used book sales. If privacy is a concern, check out the availability of pdf formats
as many books are available entirely online.

I'll have more of these in the future. We have similar experiences, but many voices.
Hearing all of them helps.

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