Monday, December 7, 2009

Bi The Way for more info. This is a great new documentary on new views regarding bisexuality.

Check it out on LOGO channel...see your provider for air times.

Personally, I believe in the Kinsey Scale rating system; I feel all people are naturally sexually expressive in a number of ways from one extreme ('pure' heterosexuality) of the scale to the other ('pure' homosexuality.) If we didn't have societal pressures and government restrictions on how we live, sexual expression in this country would be much different.

The early role assignments and shame that parents--and, Goddess forbid, THE CHURCH--impose create a stricture that takes a lifetime to undo. If people were allowed to develop naturally and without having their genuine feelings suppressed and degraded, who knows what kind of happiness we might experience?

However, in the world we live in, people are expected to label themselves and be pigeon-holed for the convenience of others' interpretation and assessment. I would much prefer to just be "a guy." But as long as there is ignorance and oppression around the reality of "who happens to be attracted to other guys," I have a war to wage. (There are plenty of guys and gals who live in fear and forced regret for the emotions they feel. Without a visible counter stance, the rigidity of the Oral Minority and those who 'know Jesus in name only' will continue to ruin lives.)

I'm positive that the number of men who romantically love other men, even if only once in a lifetime, is an astronomical digit. But men are scared to admit this reality even to themselves, much less the object of their affection or another person. This continues the illusion that the number of men attracted to men is a small minority, and makes afraid men's fears seem justified.

After all, we live in a world where people will fire you, abuse you, disown you, excommunicate you, and refuse you in every way in accordance with their wayward beliefs about how YOU 'should be' expressing your sexuality. That's a lot to go up against.

If the true number of men who sneak around anonymously for gay sex (HINT: It isn't just black guys!) and the number of guys who have had an experience in their past were unveiled, it would be mind-boggling. That doesn't even consider the men who have desired the contact but been petrified to make a move.

I've known many men who live as gay for a while but eventually resign to getting married and going with the flow. Going against the established 'norm' just becomes too much to handle for them. Again; the rigid assumption that you have to "Pick a Category" and stick with it for life makes many people choose the safe bet.

Any way, see the documentary; it addresses a lot of these issues. Not trying to ignore women with my rant, but when you see the film you'll see what we've known all along regarding the double standard revolving around women's sexual diversity. Women tend to be more free to explore their 'bi' side or their homosexuality, only because society tends to disregard their choices as ineffectual. (And the beat goes on. )

Monday, November 30, 2009

"Good Morning, PART OF America!"

You go update your shit, Americans-with-Head-Up-Your-Ass Syndrome.
Yes, more bitching about the double-standard filled bullshit of Good Morning America's
ridiculous puritanical retarded-ass stance!
After Adam Lambert performed on a prime-time AMA show with what was labeled 'inappropriate' behavior by Oral Minority twats, Good Morning America reneged on Lambert's invite to perform live on their show.
Because of the time slot?
Because they have no time delay?
Because somebody complained?
Because they think he isn't professional and can't follow restrictions?
Because they avoid all controversial guests?
Naw. Because they're cowardly, pandering, dullards...and because they're FULL OF SHIT!
The show has featured plenty of topics that were not 'suitable' for young viewers.
They have had performers who normally do very suggestive performances.
They sucked George Bush's dick on national television for 8 damned years while the nation dove into the toilet, and they supported a war that killed thousands.
But two men kissing--on another program--poses a conflict?

Get real.
And the entire bogus controversy is indicative of exactly the problem that Lambert was attempting to side-swipe. A pervasive and troubling double-standard.
Female stars have dry-humped and done completely nasty stuff on stage at awards shows for years. Women can kiss each other. Male rock stars can hump and grab crotch and gyrate--so long as they are perceived or promoted as lady-killers and thereby considered appropriately heterosexual.
But a gay man doing the same routine automatically gets labeled inappropriate and obscene. Get over it already. As Sasha Cohen brilliantly displayed in BRUNO, this country goes nuts with glee for violence, but loses their mind with fear and hate when it comes to intimacy between two men.
High time for a cool change, baby.

Wednesday, November 25, 2009

SPOTLIGHT ON: Human Rights Campaign site

(From the HRC website;)

FBI Reports 11 Percent Increase in Victims of Hate Crimes Based on Sexual Orientation in 2008
Report shows rise in lesbian and gay hate crimes for third year in a row; Local and state law enforcement agencies urged to report statistics to FBI.

For more info on this and to visit the Human Rights Campaign website directly, go to

Community actions, merchandise, news, and contacts anywhere in the U.S.

Monday, November 23, 2009

The problem exemplified: LOCAL RADIO

"So what's all the fuss about anyway?"

Well, being ignored and demonized by others isn't restricted to the playgrounds.

Let's take a little slice of life from today, Monday November 23, 2009. I call it "Researching the local radio talk shows in Southwest Georgia."

The first talk show available is the "Rick and Bubba Show." Two rednecks talking trash about everyone and coming off as a poor-man's Fox News, ignorant and full of shit. 'Nuff said.' I have heard them before, unfortunately, and didn't even bother to try them today. The South may not ever 'rise' again, but it sure as shit still stinks the same one day to the next.

The second show is the "Bob and Sheri Show." This is actually a 50% great show, as Sheri is superb and intelligent. Her co-host, not so much. He's a tightly wound pseudo-snob. (No, arrogance is not dependent on great wealth or pedigree.) Today, a bit was discussed about a man arrested for being aroused while in the library watching wrestling.

A big to-do was made over "How could he be aroused?" "It must have been the ring girls." "I don't understand." and other ridiculous nonsense that he (Bob) engaged in with either the producer or some other male on air. In other words, the message is: The man being a homosexual is so vexing, so undesirable, so inconceivable, that we must silence it from the discussion so as to feel secure in our own fragile masculinity and heterosexuality. Beat a dead horse, fellas.

Third was the Morning Show on WOOF FM, with Amy and John. I can barely stand her voice or her whole goofball routine, so it's not a typical listen either. But in tuning in today, she was in the midst of a rant about the Twilight movie. (sigh.)

First she stated how only 20% of the audience was men (That might have been a statistic she read on movie sales.) She proceeds to explain as fact how the only men in the theatre she was at were boyfriends and husbands. WTF? Are you smoking crack? Are you a completely vapid B? In addition to chicks facing mid-life crises and needing to vamp on underage boys (like herself,) the largest population of the Twilight fan base is gay men. But we can't talk about that on the radio, naturally.

No, instead, we pretend once more that gay people do not even exist. Eradicate us from the consciousness even. She goes on to suggest that "single guys" (by which she obviously mean heterosexual men who haven't yet acquired their own personal snatch supply) should be free to go to the movie as a chance to hook up with some needy female who has been amped up from watching the movie. Yech! And all this lecherous cougar-like nastiness and trolling of movie theaters is acceptable, but acknowledging a hefty percentage of society (and their listening audience--Hello!) is not!? Whatever.

This seems par for the course.

By excluding even a hint or a reference to gay and lesbian men and women as part of the world, the not-so-hidden message becomes that we are not welcome to be part of the world. That we are less than other humans in the eyes of those in charge. Being a radio host is a big deal; you are the voice that guides many people through their day. By pretending that we don't exist, by going out of your way to ignore the reality of our existence, it's a slap in the face.

And for those who are hiding their true selves, it sets a dangerous precedent; "Stay hidden, if you know what's good for you. That's what we expect, and that's what your purpose is."

Two men laughing about a guy getting aroused by wrestlers is insulting the attraction and devaluing the person who felt the attraction. It also sends a clear message that anyone else who feels similarly should likewise be ashamed, and that such behavior is intolerable. "Mind your place."

No, thank you. You mind yours. You're stewards, and you have a responsibility. People make oversights, sure, and in the course of filling several hours with talk, not every moment can be grand. But these types of things sneak in all the time. And the people they adversely affect do remember them long after they're said and forgotten by the speaker.

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Rather Fight Than Swish

"Not that there's anything wrong with swishnin'..."
but sometimes you have to become a fighter
in order to be a lover.
Love this image; it's from a release by the shown title
from Camp Records (undercover gay music from the 1960's.)

Words of Wisdom: Shakespeare

"to thine own self be true,
and it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man ."

-Polonius in HAMLET

It bears repeating, since it doesn't register or permeate
the membrane on the first few pass overs;


A lot of problems are solved or avoided all together by keeping
it simple. Honesty with one's own desires, needs, and makeup
is the only means of happiness and contentedness.
All else is illusion and waste of time.

I start every day by saying to myself:
"Imagine that you knew in advance that
THIS was to be your last day of life on the planet?"

Now, how do you enter the fray?
How do you live your life?
What are your priorities?
How much do your fears and insecurities (and other people's
dismissals) matter now?

Words of Wisdom: Tracy Chapman

"BORN TO FIGHT" by Tracy Chapman

They're tryin' to take away my pride
by stripping me of everyhing I own
They're tryin' to hurt me inside
And make me into a white man's drone
But this one's not for sale

And I was born to fight
I ain't been knocked down yet
I was born to fight
I'm the surest bet
There ain't no man no woman
No beast alive that can beat me
'Cause I'm born to fight

They're tryin' to dig into my soul
And take away the spirit of my god
They're tryin' to take control
And monitor my every thought
I won't let down my guard

And I was born to fight
I ain't been knocked down yet
I was born to fight
I'm the surest bet
There ain't no man no woman
No beast alive that can beat me
'Cause I'm born to fight

Monday, November 16, 2009

"HOW IT WORKS": by NBC Studios dick-heads: crushing GLEE


Ah, the light bulb people. G.E. and NBC: they bring contempt to life.

Too bad no light bulbs went off about the bad press!

First, you hear about a great new popular series called "GLEE" which has all the kids talking and is garnering considerable numbers, i.e. dollars.

So, invite them to participate in the holiday festivities of the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade.

Next, discover that the show is written and produced by openly gay Ryan Murphy and--shock of shock--as it deals with a high school glee club--it's gayer than Halloween!

Consequently, as a concerned NBC exec who values (certain) 'family values,' DIS-INVITE the cast from coming to perform at the parade.


A pox upon you, NBC. Screw you and your little bitch parade, too.

Today's Affirmation; Sissies No More!

Deep within you
is a spark
of power
has no limit
has not yet
been seen.

Dig deep,
breathe in,
hold tight.

You are stronger
than you know.

You are
far more
than the sum
of previous
or others'

Ask for
what you need,
provide for yourself
what is missing.

BE STRONG. It's more than
just an anthem; it's a way of life.

Don't be afraid to Love.

The enemy depends on
your apologies and

Don't be afraid to FIGHT!

Thursday, November 12, 2009

What Has Gone Before......


YOU are NOT alone!

To get connected to some of the more accomplished fore-fathers and fore-mothers of our gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered lives, check out this extenstive (but still incomplete!) list of some of the established family members.... both past and present!,_lesbian_or_bisexual_people

Monday, November 2, 2009



Say it with me, now;

I have a right to exist.

I have a right to feel my feelings.

I have a right to have my own beliefs.

I have a right to my own values.

I have a right to my own desires.

I have a right to express all of my feelings and desires.

I have a right to be protected from violence.

I deserve to be treated with respect.

Now, when none of these things occur or are allowed...

I have the right--and the responsibility--to stand up for myself.

I have a duty to live the best life I can.

I have a responsibility to speak out against wrong thinking, whether it occurs in a group or one-on-one.

I have a responsibility to shine my light, despite objections and derision.

I will find the strength that is innate within me to persevere and thrive.

I will remember that 'breaking me down' and stealing my joy is exactly what the enemy wants.

"I will not lie down; I will not go quietly."

I will remember that lying about me is doing the enemy's job for them.

Assimilation is death of the heart, the soul, the mind, and the body.

I will forever be my own strongest, best friend.

Saturday, October 31, 2009

Keep Hope Alive

by Langston Hughes
To fling my arms wide
In some place of the sun,
To whirl and to dance
Till the white day is done.
Then rest at cool evening
Beneath a tall tree
While night comes on gently,
Dark like me--
That is my dream!

To fling my arms wide
In the face of the sun.
Dance! Whirl! Whirl!
Till the quick day is done.
Rest at pale evening. . .
A tall, slim tree. . .
Night coming tenderly
Black like me.
Draw strength from all the brothers and sisters like you that have drawn breath for centuries, in every country in every age.
Realize recognize how many of us 'others' exist even now. Invisibility does not erase our numbers, our impact, our worth, or our possibility.
You are not alone.
Just for today, have faith in that.
Stand strong. Better days are coming.

"Keep 'em Fat, Dumb & Happy" works on queers, too

Don't let the stereotyped role models fool ya!

The same trappings that keep much of the rest of the world 'too busy' for politics and protests is true for us homosexuals, too.

We're not all wealthy antiquers with a penchant for wine-tastings, dammit!

Complacency is a killer of the mind, the body, and the soul. And it stops civil rights movements dead in their tracks.

Everyone gets sidelined by job, bills, daily routine, and a multitude of distractions large and small. But buying into the American Scream is what created the current state we're in; a somewhat civil presumption and promotion of "everything's going well."

Try coming and talking to the gays and lesbians in a small town. Come down South and take a look around. Talk to poor queers. Those of us without the financial cushion, the geographic salvation, or the respect-demanding status of Hollywood or gay ghettos all over. It's a whole other world, baby.
We are alive (and sometimes well) in middle America (and lower,) and the orientation that prevents us from being treated equally is often the lesser factor amongst other social stigmas. (Don't kid yourself; there's always room for homophobia at the inn. I can't tell you the number of times I have been called "Ma'am" by social service people, defiantly utilizing their unfireable positions and my lack of power to be as nasty as they want.)
You're not married? Mmm--hmmm. "We know what that means." End of your help.
You don't have kids? Oh. Right. I see.
And the lack of tolerance in a workplace can lead even someone okay with who they are to hide themselves on the job. If a menial job is the best you can hope for in a bad economy, you hold on to it with a passion.
If you have the bad fortune to live in one of the 49 states that has the 'at-will' firing protection, you can lose your job at any moment just because an employer 'feels like it.' Few states have protection based on sexual orientation, but an employer could just as easily make up an excuse and use it in the official firing.
So, many of us get stuck just staying afloat, trying to keep food on the table, pay the rent, keep the car running. There is a price to pay for speaking out, and in a small town it can be social castration, job loss, family ostracization, excommunication from the church, harassment, beatings, or death. For many of us, the opportunity to simply 'up and leave' is not a financial viability. Moreover, there aren't enough places at the table in the 'good places' to live.
Besides, when so many of our own cast us aside just as deftly as the rest of the world, where do we truly find a place of our own?

Friday, October 30, 2009

Join The Revolution!

There is a misconception afoot across the American Wasteland, that homosexuals enjoy tremendous freedoms and excesses now known to the average citizen. There is a deeply held notion that we gay men and women are being handed it all on a silver platter. That homophobia and hate speech and violence against us is a forgotten thing of the past.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

These misconception exist because people are actively perpetrating this misinformation on a gullible public. Our supposed public policy successes are touted as windfall, just as the right-wing controlled media continues to be mislabeled a 'liberal media.' (Talk show hosts are living proof that "If you say it, morons will come to believe."

Things are as bad as they've always been for we demonized second class non citizens--we invisible, disavowed, unpatriotic boogie men.

Awkward partial tolerance is not acceptance. Assimilation is not freedom. Forced public policy changes do not equal changes in mind or hearts; in fact, there is a known connection between civic advancements and private backlash of both violence and other abuse.

Stand tall, kids. This isn't going to be easy, and it isn't going to be quick.

But let's overcome the first obstacle in the new war against "we that are 'different.'" The illusion that there isn't any intolerance to combat any longer.

No, the emperor has no clothes on, and we have to scream it from the rooftops. Times are tight and rough, and those with feeble minds will continue to seek scapegoats for their misplaced anger and frustration.

No, there's a war brewing, and if you think you're immune to it, you'd better get your clue on.